Seek to understand

When I listen, one of the things I have noticed is that if I have a humble attitude that wants to understand what the other is saying, I typically do understand. But when I approach a situation with an attitude or feel defensive in any way, I find that I struggle to listen and really take in what the other person is saying. My mind can wander around, checking out body language, and tone..only to find myself "thinking" instead of listening. Real  listening is an art and takes a lot of energy. But it brings with it many blessings. 

First I need a right attitude, one of seeking to understand, and then I need to practice being quiet and really listening to what the other is trying to get across. Mirroring back what I hear, and asking if I am understanding, and asking more questions about it if they are wanting to share more. 

Time is love. When we give someone our time and really listen to them; whether it is our spouse, children, or friend, we show them value and love. I am enjoying this practice of deeper listening to those I love. I am growing and so are my relationships. What a blessing!